21. Children Allowed

We drove home from the Christmas gathering and got back to the City, some hours before a major storm hit the country.

Overall, it had been some very good days. Especially yesterday when Char, I and my sis- and brother-in-law had been sitting around the dining room table and helped each other finish the LEGO-sets we had given the kids for Christmas.… Read more

20. A Christmas Upgrade

Christmas with the family. It’s a wonderful time and a difficult time.

You remember how much you need and love your family.

You are also reminded again how totally different you are from a lot of these people, who you never really chose to be your family, except your spouse.

One thing that always strikes me is that most of my family, like most people I meet, are preoccupied with talking about things and events.… Read more

18. Behind the Backside

The last day before Christmas day saw the office for the so called entrepreneur program almost empty, but I didn’t mind.

One meeting with an architect who had a need of making invisible some table-borders somebody had coded for her – and that was it. I went home again.

Char had the day off, and had bought some last Christmas presents, but was tired.… Read more

17. Sorrow’s Opportunity

For every instance of grief and hopelessness, every experience of it, there is an opportunity to do some good elsewhere. This opportunity is, in a sense, fueled by the sorrow of the very situation that seems so devoid of any ‘good’.

The opportunity arises if enough energy can be mustered, from the insistence on bringing balance in one’s perspective … which can be done when one is ready.… Read more

16. The Key

Peace is first and foremost an Inner Experience, an Inner Journey. So outside events can be pretty screwy and it is still possible to create inner peace, in principle, as long as the focus is on it and not primarily on controlling outside events.

Some events, of extreme stress cannot be controlled – inside or outside.… Read more

13. The Upside

Went to the yearly Christmas gathering at the house of Char’s uncle. It’s nice but by no means extraordinary.

There are a lot of different family members and that means different lives, values, interestsĀ – none of them particulary resonant with mine.

But I had good talks all around, especially with Char’s cousin.… Read more