… being sent home from hospital a day too early (in my reckoning). My brother, who is a paramedic, came by today with his wife and gave me reason to think so.
He said: “Sometimes you have to insist of a certain treatment in the medical system, not just bow to authority.… Read more
A quiet day, with no visits. Sometimes that’s how life should be, and not just when you have a baby… Read more
We are doing better, due to lots and lots of help – some we paid for, but most came from family and friends.
Yesterday as we walked together for the first time as a family, outside, with Jay in the carriage, I said to Char:
I think I’m learning to appreciate family relations more as I grow older.… Read more
A grueling first 3 days with so many hits at once – trauma after the cesarean, exhaustion, baby-worry (and screaming) and general logistics breakdown of shopping/cooking etc.
But last night we hired a private mid-wife to come and help us, talk about it all, give morale boost. It cut deep in the credit account but was worth it.… Read more
Today I thought a lot about how Jay’s life would be, and what I would teach him as he grows older to get the best from it.
One thing that I want to teach, which has become abundantly clear to me in life so far, is that life should not consist of goals.… Read more
And so our son was born Saturday night, after a totally fine labor process things went wrong and it was a cesarean. Except of course that things only go wrong if the result is bad. And it wasn’t.
Our little boy is healthy and fine but we have had about 5 hours of sleep all in all since that day (after a 12 hour medically induced labor), so … reality dictates that those entries will be written later.… Read more
A really dreadful day and night, perhaps the worst in my life since I was hospitalized 12 years ago for acute anxiety and generally losing my marbles. We shouldn’t have come home so early after the operation and dead-tired and with a little child, but we didn’t know how to say that to the hospital.… Read more
The day after Jay’s birth we were in tatters. Having ended with an emergency cesarean all our dreams about how this should be (for years if we include the fertility treatments since 2011) … crashed. He was there and he was alive and we had to take care of him but it was difficult.… Read more
This post is written Thursday 18 about a night we will always remember: Jay was born after 12-ish hours of labor, medically induced because Char is 41 and the doctors say it will lessen risk of anything wrong not to go past her term more than one week.
Well, they were wrong.… Read more
Char hasn’t given birth yet which means that we have to go to the hospital tomorrow to start medically induced labor. Unless it happens during the rest of today, of course.
Char is 41, pushing 42, so it’s an offer from the health system – that it can be started no more than a week past her term.… Read more