I’ll write, of course, if anything happens in any of part of my life to really upset the status quo, but otherwise I’ll concentrate on this new project – when I have the time – for the rest of the time – that I’m a full-time dad.
Which means until early March, when Jay starts daycare (the date was moved forward, as noted in another post).
So what’s the project?
Well, I’ve long wanted to channel the blog posts here into some larger guide(s) concerned with the major categories of topics I write about.
My sporadic list posts have been an attempt to utilize the conclusions from all my experiences to give some more actionable advice, which may – or may not – work for you if you are in a similar situation, with similar challenges.
But … I’m not very satisfied with these posts and more often than not, I have to admit, they have been used as fillers, like the quote week I just did.
The reason I can actually start such a big project with such limited time is simple. Aside from this intro, I’m just going to have a look through all posts in the category I want to do a (big) guide about first … and comment if need be. Then I will have a good overview of the content that I can structure into a guide – later.
Here is the first relevant conclusion/reflection, from post 16. The Key:
Peace is first and foremost an Inner Experience, an Inner Journey. So outside events can be pretty screwy and it is still possible to create inner peace, in principle, as long as the focus is on it and not primarily on controlling outside events. Some events, of extreme stress cannot be controlled – inside or outside. …
That is a sub-topic related to “Inner Power” that I really, really want to dig into. Because the conclusion still holds, and perhaps I see it clearer now than over a year ago:
If I can change my inner experience of any given event or situation, I have mastered it. And one experience that I really want as ‘basis’ is an experience of peace, so events that happen and affect me adversely (like getting fired) will not affect me as powerfully emotionally.
That peace is both dependent on a peace that has been established before an adverse event happens, by building up a resilient worldview (if we can call it that).
It is also a peace that comes from building up a habit of dealing with an adverse event in a positive way, mostly or wholly.
Meaning: If I can learn to interpret an adverse event in different ways, I have effectively eliminated its adversity, partially or wholly.
And that is worth writing a guide about.