416. Still No Hostages

Continuing the research for my first Mega Guide about Inner Power. All you need to know about what is going on can be read here.

And here is the next conclusion-reflection I need to work with in the Guide …

From post 50. When I Escaped the Future:

Don’t make future goals more important than they actually are.. Sure you have to think about the future and important goals and all that, and sometimes at the expense of happiness in the present. But when does the balance tip? When is it too much? When have you become a hostage of the future?

This is also an observation I made a year ago and that I had thought about even longer and which still holds. Future goals are important, yes, but if you stress about them so much that they diminish your life quality in the present for months, perhaps years, then what are those goals worth?


You need new goals, or at the very least – new ways of achieving goals. So this is also a major factor in both inner peace, but also the whole schtick about achieving happiness by working on your experience of events first and second on changing those events, or accepting them – depending on the context.

I’ll dig into this a lot more when I actually write the new big guide about this topic, but this is definitely a cornerstone to remember.

Meanwhile I’ll refer you to an older, but very profound article (among many) about this very topic by self-development blogger extraordinaire, Steve Pavlina, “How to Set Goals You Will Actually Achieve”.

More than once …

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277. Transfer Wisdom:

I wish I could explain it better than a mere decision, but there it is. It is, however, a decision matured. It has matured for a long time and it has to do with a realization of the futility of trying to sell out your present to insure your happiness in the future, so to speak. Just as profound as the realization I had in 2006 which cured me of the deep and devastating anxiety that had gotten me into hospital: If I could never get better there was no point in hating and berating myself for certain thought and other matters, only in trying to make as much good time as possible to enjoy – during the minutes and hours I was not suffering.