Let’s review the list of reflections so far for my upcoming Guide about Inner Power … because that’s the only damn way to make these … lessons into habits.
And making them into habits is the only damn way to make life infinitely stronger.
Here they are again:
- Acceptance that the first and best course to feel happy and at peace is to try to consciously change our experience of events – not events themselves. (Post 415.)
- Setting future goals that don’t give you stress in the present. (Post 416.)
- Controlling what goes into your mind. (Post 417.)
- Controlling the manner in which you think. Or speed. (More on that in post 418.)
- Making it a habit to cultivate positive thought patterns. (Post 419.)
- Only do major problem solving when you are rested and nourished, physically and mentally. (Post 420.)
- Don’t go berating yourself. Don’t go berating others. (Post 421.)
Stress handling is NOT about trying to gain immunity from stress – that is silly and counterproductive. It’s about as quickly as possible regaining balance and calm when problems bring you out of balance – make you angry, confused, overwhelmed, etc.
I have a special lifeline by my bed, which is a book about Joan of Arc that I love very much. It always gives me great hope and energy reading about her. So whenever I feel down or something nasty has happened I get a ‘fix of hope’ reading in that book.
I also have a close friend I know I can call at any time, and I know this is a privilege in a way. On the other hand, you don’t get or keep close friends if you don’t work for it. And many people seem to be too busy working their jobs instead of working on their friendships.
– I have some special music I always hear when the going gets tough and I need to persevere at something
– Long walks – wherever I can – are really, really good at giving me energy when I feel a bit down and disheartened. I relax and let my thoughts fly – get fresh air into the lungs. It’s so bloody simple and it works so well.
– And quotes … I have a few favorites that I paste on my desktop, write down where I can see them, and so on.
Use them like affirmations. Some of them are about being an entrepreneur. Some of them are about perseverance. Some of them are just about guiding my attention to the world’s beauty and wonder. Often I try to find a picture that matches.
There can be crises that are so great that you just need to survive them. Or at least ride the waves until you can even think about which lifeline you even have ready to pull yourself up and go on. Life is not always fully controllable – not even by lifelines.
Think of it as the emergency kit. It doesn’t prevent bad stuff from happening, but it sure alleviates a lot if you have it handy when you hurt yourself in the kitchen. Or greater disasters.
So now we are at eight core reflections about Inner Power for my Guide.
And there are more …
P.S. In case you just dropped by: There’s more info about why I am doing these list-like posts now, and not diaries and reflections as usual … here.