From post 312. The Things That Work:
These things work to de-escalate anger and become calm: – stop the situation, remove yourself; then clean up; music … and a hot mug of coffee. Do something nice for yourself, too. These things work. So if it ain’t broke …
I thought I would leave this out because it was so … banal. But in reality it is probably one of the most important factors in my quest – maybe also your quest – to increase Inner Power:
Learn to control your feelings. And learn the easiest ways of doing that. Learn that there are alternatives to getting overwhelmed by feelings, like anger.
And that most often it works a whole lot better to find the stop button and then come back later and see if the anger is still there, instead of just going with it the first time around.
Very Difficult, I know. But as hinted in the quote above, there are ways to do this which are really simple and banal. So the difficulty lies in trying to find out how to make it a strong habit, to look for those ways for a breather when you feel the cascade of emotions.
So that IS important. Perhaps, as said, the most important component of Inner Power, in my opinion …
Aside from the other eight I have reviewed so far, of course …
- Acceptance that the first and best course to feel happy and at peace is to try to consciously change our experience of events – not events themselves. (Post 415.)
- Setting future goals that don’t give you stress in the present. (Post 416.)
- Controlling what goes into your mind. (Post 417.)
- Controlling the manner in which you think. Or speed. (More on that in post 418.)
- Making it a habit to cultivate positive thought patterns. (Post 419.)
- Only doing major problem solving when you are rested and nourished, physically and mentally. (Post 420.)
- Not berating yourself. Not berating others. (Post 421.)
- Maintaining lifelines – things that will help you when the going gets tough. (Post 422.)
Those are the core reflections for an upcoming Mega Guide I’ve long wanted to do and which seems more and more real now.
I mean that I should embark on something – a review series – to save time, and that this actually seems like it is resulting in the framework at least for something rather big and usually time-demanding … like a guide.
To Something Important.
Okay, it is not finished – not by a longshot. But I see it clearer in my mind now.