Family time is, after all, your most important asset in life, perhaps more important than money – at least in many situations.
There seems to be a remarkably close relationship between what we sell, why we sell it and then to how we relate to people who help us sell.
Sometimes there are surprises, though, so take nothing for granted – esp. about other humans.
But be wary when its all about surface and big words and not so much about affecting others in positive ways.
So I suppose, after all that has gone before on this gig, I should feel bad that I did not slam the door, or had the courage change myself enough to slam that door earlier in our ‘cooperation’. I mean, I should feel humiliated, shouldn’t I?
But, honestly, I just feel kind of …’whatever’.
Perhaps that is a sign I already have the courage. It doesn’t matter that he acted first.
I guess I will just have to fall back on the time-tested entrepreneurial art-form of Doing Something and seeing where it goes.
It is better than analysis-paralysis.
I already know his type (much like my former employer when I was in the health sector):
He is a man who deep down cares mostly if not exclusively about himself. You can give all sorts of reasons – my kid, my ability to make money with other clients, my health, etc.
He will try to make it seem like he cares and then he will make demands again, or shrug off any reasonable arguments from my side that he should not abuse my time. He has already done so on a number of occasions since February. So now I know what I am dealing with.
Including my own feelings, I guess. But that makes for a stronger ability to make choices in my favor.
respect or not for initiative and courage – I just don’t resonate well with people who are only in it for the money.
So in a way I’m glad this prospective client called and made it clear he had wasted my time.
This is one of my list posts – with actionable advice on a given topic.
A good, positive strong mindset is what you need more than anything to make the best of your small business, including but not limited to, the web-part.
And I will make myself the first case for this new book.
Aside from acts of God and other knocks that life can give, such as health problems, I should still strive to create a system which earns me – by delivering something valuable to many people – and which I control. Otherwise I will still be swept away by everything that happens around me.
That goal is the single most important from now on.
Not only was the lack of income getting to me, but also the sense that I wasn’t providing value – not using my skills and experience for any good for anyone.
But I was. I wrote something and put it out. And some people will read it and benefit from it.
So that at least I can always do. And that is half the way getting there.
In a way it is refreshing – working the world of private business. Not like university where you could get away with writing something clever but which ultimately didn’t help someone. Or a relationship where you can appeal to someone’s sympathy.
Here it is just that: Deliver results and get something. Don’t deliver – don’t get anything.
It is hard, but should it really be any different?
I like to see every hour I have to spend working for this client as a training program making me a black belt and beyond.
In mental martial arts.
Baby Jay might – just might – end up helping me getting more goals achieved, because I become more efficient.
I tend not to be efficient when time is not precious.
I’m just angry. And some days it is okay to be. As long as it is only some days, and not all days.