Met an old friend, ESK, for the first time in a long time tonight, for tea and a sandwich and a talk. About how she is stressed at work, as usual, and has asked for new assignments with less managerial responsibility. Again …
I seem to be having this conversation with her every few years, and she is ill more and more often, in so many ways.… Read more
If I ever want people to connect with me and share with me, in depth, how they gain from (or don’t gain from) the material I do – then I have to do the same for other people.
There is no way around this.
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Visited JMO because we need to borrow his house while our own apartment is renovated. Actually it is the apartment above us, but they need to shift the toilet and kitchen pipes on all floors, too. Quite a fucking bother with a baby in the house, but there you have it.… Read more
I went to the old friends’ get-together today anyway, 2 hours’ drive away, even though I had absolutely decided some days ago I would not.
Perhaps something happened when my mother’s operation had passed, made a little more space in my head … even for such things which are supposed to be fun.… Read more
Brunched with a good friend today, FS, who told me that his son had been ill for 3 years with bad kidneys when he was an infant. We were talking about our kids, so the topic came up naturally, but it made me think, in a good way, about how fortunate we are that we ‘only’ have to deal, so far, with Char’s relatively superficial health problems (her hand).… Read more
“Your noble friend will not accept pretension but will gently and very firmly confront you with your own blindness. Such friendship is creative and critical; it is willing to negotiate awkward and uneven territories of contradiction and woundedness.”
― John O’Donohue, Anam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom
Another quote I found from John O, as I try to catch meaningfully up with the posts after a period of disarray.… Read more
Was told today that the father of my best friend, MRN, has cancer.
MRN did not tell it to me yet, but I know he will, because we will talk sooner rather than later. (Tomorrow is his birthday.)
I thought a lot about how to handle that and how to support MRN the best.… Read more
An old friend, JN, visited today – all the way from Holland. During dinner, consisting of pizzas, in the bedroom/Jay’s room, he confided that he had tested himself for Asperger’s. The result was ‘positive’.
I had long felt that there was indeed some kind of ‘block’ in his social skills, which is one of the factors used to ‘measure’ Asperger’s.… Read more
My best friend, MRN, and his wife, L, was over to see us and Jacob and I thought a lot about how the hell I should handle this.
You see M and L want a child but, like us until 2016, have not been able to do it. And he is 40 and she is 39.… Read more
A day like most others this ‘cruel summer’ in the City, with no clients but plenty of work with Jay.
Also, JO, my old friend came over. Which was heartening, as usual. Just a few hours talking about the world and everything reminded me of why friendships give you just that extra quality in life that doesn’t need anything but itself.… Read more
Wrote a long email for my best friend, MRN, who is right now vacationing in Vienna with his wife, and pretending he can travel in time.
Well, he is at least when he reads my email. Because in essence the whole email is, like many others, not addressed from my but from my alter ego to MRN’s alter ego, LA.… Read more
Visited an old acquaintance today, who has got special hands. She does some form of healing, I’d say, and I also bought an hour of that. Made some business for her and got a lot of energy from it myself.
I let results speak for themselves. Who cares how it works.… Read more
An old friend pissed me off yesterday by changing her WordPress website to a software-as-service solution.
Not because I hate all SaaS or because I put in a lot of free time to teach her WP. Simply because she took off her head and walked with it under her arm into the arms of that SaaS-company and Took No Backup Of Her Old Site.… Read more
So an old friend, CS, came by yesterday evening, out of the blue as she is wont to. She hasn’t visited in over a year.
She wanted to see Jay and was very nice and had brought gifts and fodder for the evening. Ultimately she hadn’t brought much of herself. I felt, as usual, more like a connection in a business network she wanted to ensure she still had access to than I felt like getting a visit from an old friend.… Read more