357. Houses

Visited JMO because we need to borrow his house while our own apartment is renovated. Actually it is the apartment above us, but they need to shift the toilet and kitchen pipes on all floors, too. Quite a fucking bother with a baby in the house, but there you have it.… Read more

335. My Place

I went to the old friends’ get-together today anyway, 2 hours’ drive away, even though I had absolutely decided some days ago I would not.

Perhaps something happened when my mother’s operation had passed, made a little more space in my head … even for such things which are supposed to be fun.… Read more

332. Using Belief For Others

Brunched with a good friend today, FS, who told me that his son had been ill for 3 years with bad kidneys when he was an infant. We were talking about our kids, so the topic came up naturally, but it made me think, in a good way, about how fortunate we are that we ‘only’ have to deal, so far, with Char’s relatively superficial health problems (her hand).… Read more

307. The Critical Part of Friendship

“Your noble friend will not accept pretension but will gently and very firmly confront you with your own blindness. Such friendship is creative and critical; it is willing to negotiate awkward and uneven territories of contradiction and woundedness.”

― John O’DonohueAnam Cara: A Book of Celtic Wisdom

Another quote I found from John O, as I try to catch meaningfully up with the posts after a period of disarray.… Read more

253. Diagnoses

An old friend, JN, visited today – all the way from Holland. During dinner, consisting of pizzas, in the bedroom/Jay’s room, he confided that he had tested himself for Asperger’s. The result was ‘positive’.

I had long felt that there was indeed some kind of ‘block’ in his social skills, which is one of the factors used to ‘measure’ Asperger’s.… Read more

228. Reminders

A day like most others this ‘cruel summer’ in the City, with no clients but plenty of work with Jay.

Also, JO, my old friend came over. Which was heartening, as usual. Just a few hours talking about the world and everything reminded me of why friendships give you just that extra quality in life that doesn’t need anything but itself.… Read more

216. Time Travel Together

Wrote a long email for my best friend, MRN, who is right now vacationing in Vienna with his wife, and pretending he can travel in time.

Well, he is at least when he reads my email. Because in essence the whole email is, like many others, not addressed from my but from my alter ego to MRN’s alter ego, LA.… Read more

183. Face the Truth

So an old friend, CS, came by yesterday evening, out of the blue as she is wont to. She hasn’t visited in over a year.

She wanted to see Jay and was very nice and had brought gifts and fodder for the evening. Ultimately she hadn’t brought much of herself. I felt, as usual, more like a connection in a business network she wanted to ensure she still had access to than I felt like getting a visit from an old friend.… Read more