Visited JMO because we need to borrow his house while our own apartment is renovated. Actually it is the apartment above us, but they need to shift the toilet and kitchen pipes on all floors, too. Quite a fucking bother with a baby in the house, but there you have it.… Read more
I went to the old friends’ get-together today anyway, 2 hours’ drive away, even though I had absolutely decided some days ago I would not.
Perhaps something happened when my mother’s operation had passed, made a little more space in my head … even for such things which are supposed to be fun.… Read more
Brunched with a good friend today, FS, who told me that his son had been ill for 3 years with bad kidneys when he was an infant. We were talking about our kids, so the topic came up naturally, but it made me think, in a good way, about how fortunate we are that we ‘only’ have to deal, so far, with Char’s relatively superficial health problems (her hand).… Read more
“Your noble friend will not accept pretension but will gently and very firmly confront you with your own blindness. Such friendship is creative and critical; it is willing to negotiate awkward and uneven territories of contradiction and woundedness.”
Another quote I found from John O, as I try to catch meaningfully up with the posts after a period of disarray.… Read more
Was told today that the father of my best friend, MRN, has cancer.
MRN did not tell it to me yet, but I know he will, because we will talk sooner rather than later. (Tomorrow is his birthday.)
I thought a lot about how to handle that and how to support MRN the best.… Read more
An old friend, JN, visited today – all the way from Holland. During dinner, consisting of pizzas, in the bedroom/Jay’s room, he confided that he had tested himself for Asperger’s. The result was ‘positive’.
I had long felt that there was indeed some kind of ‘block’ in his social skills, which is one of the factors used to ‘measure’ Asperger’s.… Read more
My best friend, MRN, and his wife, L, was over to see us and Jacob and I thought a lot about how the hell I should handle this.
You see M and L want a child but, like us until 2016, have not been able to do it. And he is 40 and she is 39.… Read more
A day like most others this ‘cruel summer’ in the City, with no clients but plenty of work with Jay.
Also, JO, my old friend came over. Which was heartening, as usual. Just a few hours talking about the world and everything reminded me of why friendships give you just that extra quality in life that doesn’t need anything but itself.… Read more
Wrote a long email for my best friend, MRN, who is right now vacationing in Vienna with his wife, and pretending he can travel in time.
Well, he is at least when he reads my email. Because in essence the whole email is, like many others, not addressed from my but from my alter ego to MRN’s alter ego, LA.… Read more
Visited an old acquaintance today, who has got special hands. She does some form of healing, I’d say, and I also bought an hour of that. Made some business for her and got a lot of energy from it myself.
I let results speak for themselves. Who cares how it works.… Read more