Principle No. 1:
- Accept that the best course to feel happy is to try to consciously change your experience of events – not events themselves. (Post 415.)
This principle comes the first relevant conclusion/reflection, which I wrote down on the topic way back in post 16. The Key:
Peace is first and foremost an Inner Experience, an Inner Journey. So outside events can be pretty screwy and it is still possible to create inner peace, in principle, as long as the focus is on it and not primarily on controlling outside events. Some events, of extreme stress cannot be controlled – inside or outside. …
The conclusion has grown for me over the years, and become clearer as I have constantly tested its validity. I mean, in the beginning I wouldn’t even consider it!
I was like: ‘I don’t need to change my experience of anything – that means I won’t get what I want!’
Oh, yeah … keep banging away on physical reality until it does exactly as you want it to forever.
Oh yeah … keep banging away on physical reality to be in a certain way, without stopping to consider IF you might be even happier if you changed your wish to be something else!
Well, the conclusion about all of this still holds, and perhaps I see it clearer now than over a year ago:
If I can change my inner experience of any given event or situation, I have mastered it.
And one experience that I really want as ‘basis’ is an experience of peace, so events that happen and affect me adversely (like getting fired) will not affect me as powerfully emotionally.
That peace is both dependent on a peace that has been established before an adverse event happens, by building up a resilient worldview (if we can call it that).
It is also a peace that comes from building up a habit of dealing with an adverse event in a positive way, mostly or wholly.
Meaning: If I can learn to interpret an adverse event in different ways, I have effectively eliminated its adversity, partially or wholly.
… to be continued with more – much more – material!