When dark things do happen to you - loved ones die, illness, separation and much more - one of the first things to remember is to ask for help. It is so easily forgotten, but it is the first best step out of the dark.
There IS a very real, very live, very physical way of keeping thoughts around, for a good long time, after you have let them out. I'm talking about keeping thoughts on the Internet, of course. Think about the totality of whatever you let out on the Internet, through a WHOLE life. Or just ... 20 years. 30 years. Sure, the Net will be different when you and I get older, but it will be there - trust me. It will be there in some new incarnation. And stuff we left on it years ago ... it WILL be around. And somebody WILL find it. And WILL be affected. So what did you leave around?