It is hard to tell the truth to a friend, if the friend does not like the truth. It carries great risk. But it is worth searching for a way to do it, without ego or judgement. Then the truth can come through to that friend and he can see your love, literally. You are not out to hurt him. You are there to help.
I will tell him what I think when it is the right time, if I think something I can tell him is the best.
That could even be, however awkwardly, to tell him to admit that he has lost his footing and pull the plug in some way and go to a summer house on a distant coast to find the energy again.
But I don’t think it will come to that. Because for all my doubts I know him well enough to be able to think of better advice and action, like suggesting that we go both to that summer house to discuss the plot of a new role-playing game. Purely recreational, of course. Nothing to do with his actual need to go there.
This is one of my list posts – with actionable advice on a given topic.
It’s one of the nice things about middle-age. About age in general – if it hasn’t killed you.
You can be the rock for someone else. In so many ways …
Who are you a rock for?
So how do you ultimately endure devastating loss. By adopting a religion? I don’t think that is enough. I think the ultimate key is realizing you have to endure. And find the good and the beautiful in life and truly appreciate it – in spite. Otherwise all else becomes meaningless.