This is one of my list posts – with actionable advice on a given topic.
I’ll experiment with my prices and some things I won’t do, some things I will. Other things I will regret doing for that price, and still other things I would like to repeat – like my historical talks:350 bucks for 2 hours of enjoyable work – let me have more of that!
But aside from food and shelter for ourselves and our son, I bloody won’t be constrained by having to chase a certain kind of client with a certain size of wallet, not because I’m more interested in them or a better match with my skills.
But because they are able to pay my rent for an apartment with three extra rooms I don’t use.
Since when was pretty pictures on Facebook relevant to your health, job, family or anything else?
But you can control it, right? You don’t spend so much time on social media that it matters, right?
10 minutes a day makes for 3650 minutes per year makes for 60 hours per year.
That’s not so much time to look at pretty pictures.
Only 10 minutes more to read about some idiot who is a disgrace to the office he currently occupies and what he will do next.
Will people thank you at your funeral for having spent 120 hours per year for that? Almost a month full time work per year.
As if you volunteered for summer camp to help the disabled. Oh, wait that’s only 1 week per year. Or …
Will people thank you? Your family? Your son or daughter? Voters in the United States?
I know what they will say at my funeral if I continue like this.
With being able ‘to control it’ …
I know what they’ll say. Or rather: What they will not say because I didn’t do much about it.
I know what they’ll not say. And I don’t want to hear it.
What you could do when feeling overwhelmed is to re-tell this personal story as if it was … a journey-story. It begins not with a first step, though – but with a map. Our hero(es) are set out to go – like the Fellowship of the Ring – into the big confusing world. They need a map and they need to take time to make that map. So do you. But they (you) also know that once they have a map – even if it’s just a simple one – the journey has already become a bit easier.
Wanting to be seen more than anything is the worst motivation to create art. The worst of all. It can and will destroy you. And your art. Whichever comes first.
Making order and focus in my surroundings tend to gradually pull me back to a feeling of order and focus in my mind.
At the very least, I will feel some sort of accomplishment.
And that actually counts for more than I first thought.