You are afraid you are not lovable, or ‘good enough’, if you don’t follow certain recipes for life and how to live it.
Even more, actually, than you are afraid of not getting the actual results. Like: You are more afraid of not feeling good enough than you are of actually failing in making money or finding the right religion.
If that really is the case … then you should go out there immediately and fail. And fail again. And dare to be wrong.
Until you feel okay with it.
And find some people – good, constructive people – who will support you in that process.
(Not the drinking buddies, please … )
Do that and then come back and try some of the recipes for the good life, the good spirituality, the good relationship, the good everything – if you think they still have merit.
But do it from a base of strength and self-confidence and above all: Self-love.
Otherwise it is worthless.
And you know why.
It is worthless because it is a more basic need to be loved than to be rich, or popular, or spiritual.
And none of these things can feel good, or even come to pass likely, if you do not start loving yourself first.
And that can only happen if you dare to be wrong and face the consequences of some choice which seems not be in in alignment with some authority whose love you crave. In replacement for your own love. And perhaps more so than any particular advice they are able to give on any particular need or topic …
So this is it again, then?
That same old, old lesson – that I have returned to countless of times in my life.
This is it?
Yes, it is.