If you feel bad about how little you achieve in a day, then try to lower your expectations.
Not too much, just a little, until you feel better. Praise yourself for what you have achieved. Affirm that you will achieve more of what is truly important, just not today.
It sounds like hard work – this kind of control – and it is.… Read more
I read today that there is no such thing as a ‘time problem’ or a ‘money problem’ – there’s a priority problem.
I agree. Wholeheartedly. It is also the experience from my own life.
It can all be summed up like this: If you think the problem is you don’t have enough of something, perhaps you should try to eliminate the need for that something first.… Read more
If you feel stressed it can often be because you don’t have a clear direction in life.
That is stressful Big Time!
It is, in fact, a recipe for being torn apart.
Or so you will feel – in the worst case scenario – when you are stressed beyond belief and close to actual anxiety!… Read more
I’ve noticed that when there’s something big that stresses me (moving to a new apartment and family illness and career concerns), I inevitably end up stressing about many smaller things as well:
Should I draw more?
I should clean the house more, right?
What about that account balancing?
Don’t I need to do it soon?… Read more
Met an old friend, ESK, for the first time in a long time tonight, for tea and a sandwich and a talk. About how she is stressed at work, as usual, and has asked for new assignments with less managerial responsibility. Again …
I seem to be having this conversation with her every few years, and she is ill more and more often, in so many ways.… Read more
Spent the last day in the borrowed house cleaning and shopping and doing family-stuff. I had planned some work but I had to write the clients and tell them I postponed things for various opaque reasons, because as the morning progressed I realized it would not be a good day if I did not make a choice.… Read more
Stress handling is NOT about trying to gain immunity from stress – that is silly and counterproductive.
It’s about as quickly as possible regaining balance and calm when problems bring you out of balance – make you angry, confused, overwhelmed, etc.
“Getting back into balance when you’ve been knocked about is as important as learning not to be knocked about.”
Your Lifelines are just that – a kind of first aid kit which is healthy and gives you a quick break and some energy.… Read more
Rough day yesterday, between Char and I. The stress from too much work, too much baby, and too many events had not faded enough – even after the baptism – and made me angry at a great many things.
But we survived, again, as we have done so often in our 20 years together.… Read more