So time limits are a great incentive to focus, as always. What can we do then to set these limits in ways that work to motivate us to be more efficient on tasks for our most valued projects - aside from having a baby every year?
I suppose that's an interesting thought:
What if the key is here to learn to tolerate more of my clients' complaints?
And do things in a pace that will keep me sane and then see if he actually puts his money where his mouth is?
And that place would be with someone who is cheaper, better, more reliable than me, about whom he has to complain so much to get an honest day's work done, right?
Interesting thought. And perhaps a worthwhile thought for an entrepreneur.
Especially worthwhile if I can honestly say that I am doing my best and that 75 percent of the delays and problems come from my clients' bad habits, bad planning, lack of knowledge, and lack of will to pay a realistic number of hours.
Maybe the truth is only 50 percent. But why should I take those 50 percent on my shoulders and stress to do better and better, more and more, for less and less pay? I think I can afford to err a little bit on the other side here.
I'll experiment with my prices and some things I won't do, some things I will. Other things I will regret doing for that price, and still other things I would like to repeat - like my historical talks:350 bucks for 2 hours of enjoyable work - let me have more of that!
But aside from food and shelter for ourselves and our son, I bloody won't be constrained by having to chase a certain kind of client with a certain size of wallet, not because I'm more interested in them or a better match with my skills.
But because they are able to pay my rent for an apartment with three extra rooms I don't use.
I also have to decide very clearly, what is my definition of a deal-breaker with regard to a difficult client. Even if it hurts financially. Even if it is frightening.
But if you don't know exactly what it is that will make you stop and take a new, in the short term more frightening course, like quitting a job or a big client, then you become even more frightened.
The courage to make that decision - and later stand by it, making it real - that is an act. Courage is action.
And deciding what my deal-breaker is with regard to this particular client is an action. An important action.
And once that decision is made, no going back, then the fear of actually carrying it out is lessened.
I. Don't. Have. A. Job. Anymore.
I'm self-employed now.
That's a another form of the curse of Adam in so many ways.
But it's got its perks. Like getting to decide, mostly, when you get up and 'go to work'.
And if I can do nothing else right now about to make energy and time for my passion and purpose, than getting up when I will, then I can damn well do that.