634. What Works

What has NOT worked for me with regard to making money:

– vague or abstract offers (e.g. “advance your online business in a heart-aligned direction – hire me to help!”)

– unfinished offers (e.g. those historical novels I tried to write and started blogging and marketing about but never finished)

– waiting to make perfect offers (e.g. thinking ‘I have to make this totally aligned with all my passions and my deepest purpose before I can proceed’)

What HAS worked for me:

– concrete, practically useful offers (e.g. – “let me do your webshop”)

– finished offers (e.g. my live-talks).

It may seem too trite to mention but I’m doing it because I got some of the satisfaction I thought I would get from writing a book by doing live-talks, and it took less time to produce them. And so I actually finished and was able to find an audience and earn money!

– the best, not the most perfect, offers (e.g. starting my web-business without knowing everything about WordPress – but knowing more than most of my customers)

I hope these lessons/experiences can be of benefit to you! I’d be happy to elaborate, if you want me to.

I am also sure they will be well worth remembering from time to time, when I feels stuck myself 🙂

633. The Long Road to Easy

I think one should always be cautious when assessing any ‘make-more-money-by-following-my-program-guy’ if the conversation comes to how easy it is “manifest” money if you first are able to do as they instruct.

There are many reasons but a chief one is this:

Many such people already have a system in place for earning money. They can put out a random e-book and ask people to pay 10 dollars for it, and with only about 1 percent conversion rate he would have earned at least a couple of thousand dollars.

So what does this mean? That it is “easy”? Yes, certainly – if you have done 10+ years of hard work building your site rank and mailing list.

In other cases, then?

What about the metaphysical stuff? Law of Attraction? Think and Grow Rich?

I will say if it is true that there is a cause and effect between ‘just’ thinking about manifesting, say money and then money coming into your life, then it has also a lot to do with hard mental work.

Only now I feel that manifestation of stuff in my life by way of affirmation is working for me – even though it is purely a subjective and un-provable evaluation, of course.

But it certainly feels to me like the Universe/God/AI/whatever has an easier time giving you resources when you have trained yourself to be open, positive, not needy and mostly free of negative self-talk. That is also what other New Thought thinkers write, like Napoleon Hill. Or popular spiritual authors, like Neale Donald Walsch.

So, yeah, I believe it is possible to make easy money. Either through business or thought.

But to get to the point where it is easy … that takes a long time and investment.

631. The Upside

Having children changes a lot to put it mildly.

On the downside you get to have to earn more money and less time to yourself. On the upside … well, everything good about having children – and then this perspective that you want something better for them. Including bettering yourself.

Char and I have had some rather exhausting discussions about money over the summer and I have had worries to go with that, but I often get back to that perspective:

“This is not Somalia. Our problems are solvable. I want to be a better example for my son.”

I.e. focusing more on solutions than arguing and throwing guilt around.

That is the only way.

545. Waiting For

It would really be a great help, and steady a lot of things, if one of us got a steady, high-paid job – after years of uncertainty here. And now with Jay along.

So of course there is fear it won’t come anyway. Or ever.

But … perhaps that fear just has to be accepted. Lived with.

I mean, I can write all sorts of good things about how we are just going to press on if things don’t turn out as we hope.

But before that … how about just accepting the fear instead of fighting it?

It is not easy. But I will try. I think it actually helps.

398. Patterns to Replicate

The Decision the other day about scaling down my attempts to ‘fight for time’ to find customers until Jay starts daycare and Char’s hand can heal … that had some interesting consequences.

I mean, I’ve had – what? – five different people contact me since then with prompts for quotes on webdesign tasks. Some of them were old customers, some could be new.

This may just be a coincidence, this may just be what automatically happens once everyone gets back from the holidays.

On the other hand, without getting too metaphysical (yet), I seem to remember similar instances in the past of letting go of my fight to get certain results and suddenly some of those results would come anyway. 

Whatever the cause, if any, it is certainly worth looking for patterns here. And take note each time, I think I notice one.

I might just be able to replicate it.

342. Good Sense

So keep cool and don’t work in the weekend, at least not yet. And not unless the above-mentioned special exception – The Big Really Important Project for The Big Customer. Who is not here these days … 

It is difficult but it makes good sense, to maintain this schedule, even though my income is not good currently compared to expenses. Otherwise I would never have a day off – including a day off from trying to earn money and carve out time to earn money. And then what would be the bloody point?

325. Never Mind

I feel deeply I need to change my financial situation. I’m sick of it. Even if I’m not living in Ethiopia (far from it), I’m.Still.Sick.

Of It.

I think that’s the only important part here:

I want change so much, in this department (so to speak), I’m more than willing to shit on all sorts of Perfectly Reasonable Reasons why something can’t be done or shouldn’t be done. (At least right now.)

And so I do. Now I just got to choose a starting date.

How about tomorrow?

280. First Test

No sense to sell out my sense of calm in the present and stress and try various ill-thought through activities to ‘insure’ I will earn more, in the future.

No sense at all.

Except follow a plan I already have about what to do, when to do it, and be calm when I don’t have the time to do it, because of babies, dishes and other life-things.

But I did it fine. Today.

265. The Hardest Part

I suppose I should feel bereft, having spent such a long time struggling with this question about making money in better ways – only to end up realizing that I can’t solve it now and that I am definitely trying to solve it in a wrong way, a way that does not work and so I should stop.

And wait. See what comes.

That is the hardest part. But sometimes we have to.