639. What If Peace Was Right Now?

What if I did not seek to escape work anymore which was not fully my passion? What if I kept building my webdesign business so it was sustainable and then profitable, paid off debt and saved for the future with those funds?

What if I over the years invested diligent time in a more passionate type of work, which could be something like my Distant Mirror-project and then at least gave it a chance to supplant wholly or partially my income streams from other sources?

What if I accepted that this may never happen, if nothing else then because I don’t have time to invest in this serious, time-consuming project – to make it something in less than 10-20 years or more?

What if I stopped looking for the quick way out?

What if I accepted that it is okay that some parts of life aren’t so fun as other parts of life, esp. when it comes to making money?

What if I began to appreciate more that my other sources of money – webdesign and other types of work – have their advantages, too? Like interaction with real people – for whom you make a real difference? Maybe creeps as well sometimes, yes, but mostly good people – even if they don’t have a website or business that interest you. But want something good – to make something good?

What if I stopped paying people who promised a way out – easy or not – if only I followed their program?

What if I stopped paying people so they could have their passion business (which is about teaching others to have a passion business) and then paid more attention to making ALL of my life as passionate as possible, in every situation, in every moment?

Wouldn’t that give me what I seek right away?

A change of mind. A courage to be very normal and not spectacular.

A break with the crowd. No, not that crowd – the other crowd. The crowd that thinks it is better than the crowd.

What if?

Why not?

634. What Works

What has NOT worked for me with regard to making money:

– vague or abstract offers (e.g. “advance your online business in a heart-aligned direction – hire me to help!”)

– unfinished offers (e.g. those historical novels I tried to write and started blogging and marketing about but never finished)

– waiting to make perfect offers (e.g. thinking ‘I have to make this totally aligned with all my passions and my deepest purpose before I can proceed’)

What HAS worked for me:

– concrete, practically useful offers (e.g. – “let me do your webshop”)

– finished offers (e.g. my live-talks).

It may seem too trite to mention but I’m doing it because I got some of the satisfaction I thought I would get from writing a book by doing live-talks, and it took less time to produce them. And so I actually finished and was able to find an audience and earn money!

– the best, not the most perfect, offers (e.g. starting my web-business without knowing everything about WordPress – but knowing more than most of my customers)

I hope these lessons/experiences can be of benefit to you! I’d be happy to elaborate, if you want me to.

I am also sure they will be well worth remembering from time to time, when I feels stuck myself 🙂

633. The Long Road to Easy

I think one should always be cautious when assessing any ‘make-more-money-by-following-my-program-guy’ if the conversation comes to how easy it is “manifest” money if you first are able to do as they instruct.

There are many reasons but a chief one is this:

Many such people already have a system in place for earning money. They can put out a random e-book and ask people to pay 10 dollars for it, and with only about 1 percent conversion rate he would have earned at least a couple of thousand dollars.

So what does this mean? That it is “easy”? Yes, certainly – if you have done 10+ years of hard work building your site rank and mailing list.

In other cases, then?

What about the metaphysical stuff? Law of Attraction? Think and Grow Rich?

I will say if it is true that there is a cause and effect between ‘just’ thinking about manifesting, say money and then money coming into your life, then it has also a lot to do with hard mental work.

Only now I feel that manifestation of stuff in my life by way of affirmation is working for me – even though it is purely a subjective and un-provable evaluation, of course.

But it certainly feels to me like the Universe/God/AI/whatever has an easier time giving you resources when you have trained yourself to be open, positive, not needy and mostly free of negative self-talk. That is also what other New Thought thinkers write, like Napoleon Hill. Or popular spiritual authors, like Neale Donald Walsch.

So, yeah, I believe it is possible to make easy money. Either through business or thought.

But to get to the point where it is easy … that takes a long time and investment.

631. The Upside

Having children changes a lot to put it mildly.

On the downside you get to have to earn more money and less time to yourself. On the upside … well, everything good about having children – and then this perspective that you want something better for them. Including bettering yourself.

Char and I have had some rather exhausting discussions about money over the summer and I have had worries to go with that, but I often get back to that perspective:

“This is not Somalia. Our problems are solvable. I want to be a better example for my son.”

I.e. focusing more on solutions than arguing and throwing guilt around.

That is the only way.

624. Turning

So from now on I will use affirmations pretty much 24/7 about how money is flowing to me, in all the variations that feel right. In all the ways that feel right.

I do believe this can have some sort of metaphysical effect of ‘attracting’ money, but this post is not long enough to explain why I do believe – to a degree – that that is possible.

Suffice to say I’m not a big fan of the uncritical New Thought gurus out there who just throw it out as fact – that this can work and then fail to explain why the hell it is like that. Does God have a sick sense of humor or what? Why didn’t He/She/It give the billions of poor people in the world the power and insight to attract a little more food in their lives, then?

No, there is a cosmology here that I have, and which is required to be able to believe the results you apparently get. Because as some people I know are fond of reiterating: If you do this right, you do get results! You can’t prove, however – they also stress – that this is not just coincidence. You can only get to a point where things seem to happen enough and then you have to make a choice and decide if you believe in it or still deny it.

So much for philosophy.

But I’m not here to create metaphysical money first and foremost. I’m here to create peace in my mind.

One of the things that almost destroyed me when I was depressed and suffering from anxiety in the early 00’s was how much my mind worked against me – always found all the worst outcomes and focused on.

So the primary objective of this Change is to teach myself to focus positively, by allowing myself to actually FEEL what it would be like if money flowed freely in my life, if I had enough money.

To feel it. But fully knowing it is imagination. Like sex. But you imagine that as well all the time because it feels good, right? You don’t run around imagining that you never have sex (well, some may do – but … never mind).

So I need to empower myself and I do this first by changing my focus here. Permanently.

617. Making Sense

I mean, if I know somebody who is filthy rich and who says: “Oh, I got to this point by using this or that opportunity – you can easily do that” … 

Well, it rubs me if it ain’t so easy for me and if this persons seems incapable of understanding it.

Sure, there may be some validity to it, but the lack of empathy rubs me. Or maybe it is the lack of horizon when you are in an ivory tower. (There always seems to be a very limited view from up there.)

Okay, but if I know somebody like that, does it make sense to spend a lot of time trying to understand how he or she got his/her riches and then sift truth from hyperbole?

Maybe it does. In some cases.

It probably does.

But in this case … right now?

With all the different persons I can think of – that I feel rub me the wrong way?

Even just a few?

Isn’t there a better way?

How about just lining up all the constructive things that balance your POV on these people – so it is not overly positive or overly negative?

Should not take more than 5 minutes and will do a world of good.

593. July Days (IV)

Aside from peace, only this counts – for the foreseeable future:

– My relationship, or salvaging what I can (without sounding overly dramatic)

– The Lines (more on this later)

– Earning Money

I shall think of nothing else and do nothing else, but these three things. Except when it is necessary.

Like taking care of Jay. Going to work. Doing dishes.

Not social media. Not random surfing. Not loafing around. Not anything remotely like that.

These are the July Days and they shall last.

579. Testing Knowledge

So other channels, yes – like blogging and YouTube … I know they can work for others, with regard to getting an audience, delivering value and making money. But I don’t know yet how and when they can work for me.

And I have so little time to invest in those channels, given my duties with regard to family and earning money here and now to pay bills. Via temp work. Because there are no savings. Only debt.

So it will be a while before this clarity can be tested to its fullest extent.

But at least I know what to test. That has not always been the case.

576. Owning

Why is that voice there, saying all through the day:

‘You are not good enough.

‘You did not get a job.

‘You did not get savings.

‘You did not get pension.

‘You did not get a house.

‘You did not get other normal stuff that people your age have.

‘You did not realize your skills, life purpose or much of value to anyone but your nearest family.

‘And these judgments are more important than everything you did – everything you did realize – everything you did value – everything.’

Normally I would be tempted to make some kind of statement and then embark on a rigorous mental training to get the voice to shut up once and for all.

And forget my shame about it quickly.

But maybe that is not enough this time. Not courageous enough, I mean.

Maybe I have to dare own it first.

537. Not the Law of Brainwashing

People who don’t do affirmations about money either have enough money, or too little self-confidence to experiment with a world-view that might get them labelled as cranks.

Either way, who cares.

I’m just saying it works for me. Now. In this way.

And I am sharing it so it can work for others, if they want.

There may be a ‘Law of Attraction’, but certainly no Law of Forced Brainwashing to my Silly Worldviews!

524. Highest

These customers, for whom I have built websites, seem to be a good fit for a product – and then again …

One guy is the younger man who buys domain names, advertisement campaigns and new sites and plugins, and doesn’t use all of them by half. He might be a good fit for this product. At the very least he would buy it and shelf it like many of his other purchases … :-}

Another is the middle-aged female lifestyle blogger, who had a lot of trouble getting started on WordPress but who is determined to do everything herself (and has to, because of a small budget). That includes marketing and business in general. In fact, I think she might be a better fit, if we all agree that it is the highest goal for people to actually use this product after purchase.
I am tempted to say it is not the highest goal, because I sorely need money now. And I can’t take responsibility for people’s use and non-use of what I sell them.

OTOH again: If I am not aspiring to my highest goals on The Blog, then there is nowhere else to do it. 

I have to keep myself accountable here.