636. Who Indeed

In my experience there is a huge sense of ‘this cannot be different’ among people when they once in a while are stopped and forced to think about the world. All the crime, poverty, violence and war out there (and sometimes close by).

That sense of powerlessness is paralyzing and usually leads to people, well, thinking about something else rather quickly. That is my experience anyway and I do understand it.

When I was younger and a student (of course!) I loved to discuss more social justice and how to bring it about.

Now I am older, with more obligations and probably also more disillusioned, although I definitely believe in a better society still. But I do tend to not allow myself many moments wondering about it. 

There is another task for me to be sure. If I – idealistic as I consider myself – have also become prone to ‘not thinking too much about a better world’ … then what hope is there? How can I ask people are busier than I am and even less idealistic … to think more about what we could do to change the world?

I don’t have an answer. It is something about striving to be a better example, perhaps. And starting small.

Perhaps it is easier to show other people that you are into organic foods and let that be an example. It is certainly easier than discussing world food policy.

Who can do something about that?

Yes, who indeed?

632. Leading

People who have had terrible experiences are not looking at first for explanations of someone else’s belief in their innate metaphysical responsibility of the awful experiences that have befallen them, like rape or loss of a child or serious illness. They are looking for empathy.

That is not particularly difficult to understand, if you come from my world. What is difficult is showing empathy to the people who don’t understand it.

But leading by example should still work. It has to. 

627. The Storm Lamp

WordPress.com has evolved a lot over the years … and I had failed to notice that they have such a great search engine for finding other interesting (WordPress.com) blogs. Perhaps because I’ve been busy building self-hosted WP blogs for some years now, I dunno.

But it works, and I’ve already found lots of interesting blogs – very quickly and easily. I love it!

For years now, as the blogosphere has just grown and grown, I have felt that despite the existence of various portals, it was increasingly difficult to find good blogs to follow.

I’m not talking about the big, really often very superficial blogs about anything from personal development to health. I’m talking about normal … blogs. Done by normal people. With jobs and small businesses and whatnot. Artists and housewives. Schoolteachers and veterans. Hobby researchers and wanderers. Anyone really! Not Mr. Super Guru or Miss Marketing Phenomenon.

So I look forward to finally connecting more with other bloggers – finally. But I figure that a good first step is to deliver more blogs that are easier for other people to enjoy.

I mean, really – it is not rocket science!

620. New Path

I recently began reading blogs from people who practice “paganism”. I’m not quite sure I know what that term covers, but I intend to find out.

There is a resonance here, although I doubt I will end up believing in the “Horned God” or whomever.

Wonder why that is?

I’ve always been into spirituality that was linked to nature somehow – or variants of religion, like Celtic Christianity. So maybe there is an answer there.
I suppose that best way to find out is to walk the path and see where it leads, including to some – I hope – new companions to walk that path with me.

That is not the worst motivation to want to go somewhere.

483. Pride Priorities

But if more “pride” really is what is missing (too) after a year with a baby and all sorts of other distractions, then right now the next thing I want to prioritize that can make me proud of myself – and her more proud of me – is just that boring old thing:

To go out there and earn money for the family.

And it is the right priority now.

Then there will be other times when the other priorities must be higher.

435. Waiting for Reality

ESK is rich. I mean seriously. She could quit her job tomorrow and live for the next five year, no prob. Travel the world. Do pretty much whatever she wants.

She has savings. She spends very little.

But she works, and works, and works. 

She says she doesn’t want to get carried out. She said that this night.

And she has taken steps to insure that that will not happen. I agree. I have written as much.

But I am still concerned.

I want to see reality happen before I allow myself not to be.

So that is what I will have to do.

402. Thoughts About Expectations

I think maybe it is helpful that we are relatively old parents and that I have gone through an evolution myself with regard to how I value the company of other people. In my early 20s for example I really did not like family get-togethers. I was always focused on how the other members of my family talked about “boring things” and all their little faults (imagined or otherwise). As I grow older I have begun to really look for what we share and what I appreciate in various family members, instead of focusing on what sets us apart. It just works better. I don’t try to sweep big differences under the rug, but I don’t give them too much power either – e.g. political differences.

I believe that lesson at least can help me if my son doesn’t choose a “smart” career or makes some other lifestyle choice later on that really upsets me.

But time will have to put that belief (and promise to myself) to the test. 

326. Victories of Love

… maybe Char and I are robots now. And maybe a day like this is a confused mess, with deep clouds on the horizon still, and objective recognition that you are just not getting anywhere with your business, dreams, goals.

But you have the spark. You have a smiling baby. You have a mom in good spirits. You have the will to accept the crappy work-hours and not whine, except maybe a little when you sit in the bus.

You have these small victories and if you pile them up and focus on them, they look like something.

279. The Only Question

Even the mildest of things, the most innocent of situations can suddenly become an argument, or the auto-reaction to a perceived attack.

I’d like to say that Char is more responsible than I, it is certainly what I feel at times. But in reality, I know, we are both responsible.

And the reason is probably that we, despite our age and experience and love for each other, are strung out at times by baby Jay, and me by trying to do the business.

In addition … 

But the only relevant question here is what we will do with this awareness. Because there is not so much else we can change now about our circumstances. Only our will to react differently to these.

136. Up

I can’t change clothes. I can’t get into shape. I can’t just magically impose order on the thousand uncertainties in my life right now (again).

But I can sit down and think. Slowly. Precisely. With care. Much care.

And regain some sense of being ‘up there’. I don’t know how else to describe it.

So here it is then, the start:

A poem …